One of the most important lessons I’ve learned on this self-love journey is that you really need to surround yourself with those who lift you higher. I’m sure many of you have heard the saying, “You become like the five people you spend the most time with, so choose carefully.” Whether you have or have not heard this – read that sentence again and think for a minute how it applies to you. Are those five people your biggest fans? Would you hesitate to call any of those people in a time of need? Are those people positive and continuously clap at your success? OR Do you maybe have some toxic people around you that bring you down and pour water on your fire? It’s pretty eye-opening.
All of us know people from our childhood, high school, college, and friends currently in our day to day lives, and whether those people come and go or stay constant YOU ARE CHANGING (I hope). We grow so much from a child to adolescence to adulthood. It is just not practical to have all of these friendships and maintain them successfully. Instead, look at those friendships that bring you joy and purpose and exert your time and energy into those people.
I used to constantly try to maintain friendships from all walks of life. I never wanted to lose a friend because I didn’t want to lose all those memories and fun we had. It is sometimes hard to look through old pictures and think of the memories of old friendships, but I try to look at what those friendships taught me. Now at 27 years old, I have learned that it is okay to let people go. Not everyone you meet is going to remain throughout your entire life. I do believe that certain people enter your life for a reason or only for a short period of time and those memories will always remain even if the people don’t.
It is okay if friendships fade or if you move on from people who don’t serve you anymore. It does not mean you don’t care about that person or wish them well. It simply means you are on a different path and that is okay!! You can’t be the person you are meant to be if you have people in your life holding you back! You need friends that cheer you on and fill your cup. You need friends that understand you, but also push you to be your best self. I can confidently say right now I have those kind of people by my side and I love them with my whole heart. I would do anything for my closest friends and I know that is reciprocated with no exceptions. You can’t give your all to a friendship that you get nothing back from. Find your tribe and love them hard.